Expect more.
When we took in this foster kid for emergency shelter, we were told he only knew 4 signs, couldn't shower himself, needed help wiping, couldn't talk, grabs people and pulls them, slept little, doesn't interact with anyone and that altho he had been on anti psychotic meds he had not taken them for more than 2 weeks.
What we learned
He knows many more than 4 signs (you just have to require him to use them), he can shower himself (with supervision), he can wipe (!), he can say some words (including the very important 3 - hi, please, thank you), he does grab your hand (but only to show you what he wants), he is on a regular 10:00 p.m. - 6:15 a.m. sleep schedule, his meds have kicked in nicely, he is very obedient, he is even tempered - no outbursts at all, AND he LOVES to play Simon Says (I'd say that's pretty interactive!)His auntie's home on Maui just passed inspection etc. so that she can take him permanently. He leaves on Monday. We are so happy for him!
What was presented and perceived as a challenge has ended up being a wonderful blessing.
Our Lesson
Never give up on anyone. Every person has such potential :)
